Thoughts create depression. Is this true?

Stay alert:

• Do you speak only about yourself?
• Do you ask for others doings after speaking a while about yourself?
• Do you really pay attention to the meaning of the words when they are speaking or are you just thinking in what are you about to respond?
• Do you analyze the impact of your words and calculate the “aftermath” of your encounter?

Sometimes, we rather talk to someone without a purpose, than to listen to yourself before, during, and after speaking. Why?

by Icky Pic

If you don’t listen to yourself, you are actually a representation of this picture: Totally blind to your surroundings, and totally confused with what is going on because you are not observing/listening/talking about what is happening.

If you talk about yourself without considering what the other person may want to hear, are you actually communicating? You may say; you do, but in fact a conversation can only be held if two persons are really engaged into understanding each other.

For example: You may talk for half an hour about fish because you love them, but after that you go to sleep, and don’t ask your mate (wife, husband, friend, brother, sister etc.) about his day, his plants, or whatever. Do you realize that by doing so, you are separating from him?

Now, it can be tough because even you do have the intention of listening, you may realize that now you can see things that may hurt:

01You were so into speaking that you hadn’t read their body talk before (yawn, a tick, touching their mouth as if they want to speak, etc.); you realize people weren’t interested in your talk.

02Those who listened to you, don’t want to talk to you about the things they love, and don’t feel the need to share about themselves.

03You may realize the interesting things you could have known, you may regret the days you were self centered, and wished had spent sharing with your loved ones. You may even feel sad for being so dumb.

Now, stop.
If you start feeling those depressive thoughts, react! There is no need to feel guilt, but to analyze the reasons behind the self-centered attitudes, so you may be alert before they arise again.

Your old patterns will try to regain force, each day, until the new habits replace the old ones. Well, how does all of this relate to depression? Well, a sad person comes into being because of several factors like:

• Loneliness
• Fear
• Anger
• Frustration
• Insecurity
• Low-self esteem
• Egoism

One concept is always are related to each other. For example: If I feel anger, it is because I feel powerless, thus frustrated that you cannot change “the thing that keeps you depressed”. Or, If I are am an egoist person, then others will start to stay away from me because I am bitter, self-centered, and I will become lonely although surrounded of people.

So, what can we do when depressed? Find out the source of the depression. Listen to your thoughts. Find out if your thoughts provoke your sadness. Find the reason of those thoughts. Ask questions, ask them again, and release the inner pain through becoming aware of it.

Good Luck!
By the way, beware: These ideas are not considering a chemical imbalance, merely “mind/spirit” issues.

A possible reason we react with anger is a deceiving self-image that leads you to depresion. I try to imagine angry, but not depressed or sad people… and I can’t.

To change this we need to observe ourselves when you are sad or angry. Have you listened to those depressing thoughts, and doubted them? Tough? Practice is needed, and many times at first you will not notice, but if you persevere you will find out what is beneath your anger.

Who wants to be with an angry person? We may do it, but is that relationship healty? Do we want to live constantly with a person who is always angry? We would prefer to be with someone who is happy because their happiness is contagious.

An example: I am angry because someone I loved left me. In fact, I am really sad, very sad, but I prefer to be angry because sadness is translated as a weakness. However, to realize, accept and understand your sadness is really something tough(you need a lot of inner strength), not weak. We may perceive we are sad. However, we don’t want to realize the reasons and ways to overcome the sadness, and the reality of it is kept inside of our minds. Then, we may have nightmares or dreams about it. We still don’t want to realize it.

Sadness is volatile, as is anger. If those feelings are so volatile, why are we so persistent in bringing them on? Do we want to live saddened or angry? Do you know more examples?

Now… Why do we react with anger? One, if we are sad we don’t want to discover the complete nature of our sadness, then it is probable we will continue acting with anger rages until we learn the reasons it is not the best for us. Two, it is a way to cover sadness. The mind may have this idea: If I am angry, I am strong. I am sad, I am weak. I am strong. I will get angry, instead of being depressed. However, that depression leads us to be angry, and anger brings us more depression because people who are surrounding us may keep away from us. They may be afraid of your anger or tired of dealing with it.

A true Smile by ~FreeBirD®~

You don’t need money nor fame. You just have to listen to those thoughts, doubt them, be aware of their consequences as you believe them…

You need to eat right. Do some exercise. Why? Body chemistry also plays an important role.

Why do we want to be angry? There is no positive effect. At a long term, we may realize that anger has had a terrible impact in ourselves. Why do we want to be sad? You may say… Sadness cannot be controlled. You don’t need to control it. You just need to be alert, so you can be conscious of it when it arises. You will see sadness, instead of seeing through sadness.Thus, by doing so, you will be able to understand it and perhaps find out there is no reason to be sad.

So, do you want to be angry and sad? Or, better yet, Do you want to be happy and fulfilled?
It’s up to you! Be Happy! Couldn’t do it today? Don’t worry, be happy! Wouldn’t it be awsome to be happy most of the time?

It is ironic that we may be alone many times, and never feel lonely, but when we are sad or depressed we feel left alone. Who has left us alone, other people or ourselves? Who has been keeping others away, us or the others?

Can’t be happy? Smile… Fake it.

Then, without noticing it… The smile will become real.

You are happy. You are lucky. You are fantastic. You are great.
You are… THE MOST PRECIOUS AND WONDERFUL BEING I HAVE EVER MET or YET NOT MET… But I will. Why do I say this? Find it out!